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Day 25: Playing BDSM

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Today’s objective: Talking about scenes and creating consent

Yesterday you created three different scene outlines for BDSM scenes, one focusing mostly on sensation, one on power and a third one according to what you like. The focus today will be to focus more on one of the scenes and create the appropriate consent and negotiate the scene. Particularly with BDSM, but also with other sex play, negotiating, imagining and designing the scene can be a major turn on for the people involved. Hence, don’t underestimate the power of scene planning!

If you are doing this workshop with a regular partner, then you should involve him at this stage. As a first step, share the scenes you both created and select one of the six to work on. If you are doing this workshop alone,… [End of preview]

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Day 24: Exploring BDSM

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Today’s objective: Find out more about how BDSM can become part of your sex life.

BDSM, Bondage, Domination, Submission/Sadism and Masochism, can at first seem scary to some people, mostly because it is largely misunderstood and misrepresented. Often it is portrayed as extreme forms of dominance and submission, though in reality, it often is much tamer and consensual than it appears at first. So, cast your preconceptions aside, and think of it as a way of fulfilling all sorts of fantasies, including some you would probably not have thought of as being BDSM… [End of preview]

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Day 16: Emergency Stops

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Today’s objective: Learn “emergency stop” techniques to avoid ejaculation

Breathing, as practiced yesterday, is very effective to delay ejaculation to a stage where you are well into ecstasy territory and with some training it should become a natural way to have multiple orgasms for a man. However, it is possible that occasionally you need to apply an emergency stop, quite literally. The problem with this is that an emergency stop is quite abrupt, so it really ends the sex you are having for a bit. For some guys this is a problem as some loose their erection over this. Therefore, breathing and the microcosmic orbit are preferable as they are continuous and doesn’t stop the flow. However, if you plan to continue, it is better to stop rather than ejaculate and end the sex.

There are two fairly easy to learn techniques for an emergency stop. I’d suggest that you try both them out as part of today’s activity on your own first. Like that you know how it feels.

The first one is… [End of preview]

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Day 15: Taoist Breathing, the Microcosmic Orbit

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Today’s objective: Learn to breathe to prolong sex without ejaculation

While you were performing yesterday’s activity, you might have noticed the crucial role that breathing has when you are close to cuming. Many guys speed up their breath when they are approaching orgasm, some hold their breath immediately before. As during Taoist sex you try to avoid ejaculation (but not orgasm) you can use breath as a way to control you. The most basic way is to intentionally breathe slowly and regularly. For some guys slowing down the breathing is enough to bump you over the line between orgasm and ejaculation, meaning that you are entering into a state of ecstasy without ejaculating. As a participant describes this stage: “It all seems quite the usual stuff until I get to this point where I get really close. After breathing, the feeling totally changes. It then feels as if I’m in trance or a different state and I can go on and on for a while before I have to stop and calm down for a while”.

While you can simply breathe deeply and slowly as a way to delay ejaculation, a different way is what Taoists call using the “Microcosmic Orbit”:… [End of preview]

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Day 14: Edge yourself

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Today’s objective: Understand the logic of “non-ejaculation”

If cuming, as a way of saying ejaculation, sounds like the best thing in sex to you… you are not alone: I reckon 99% of males think exactly that. The problem? Most men learn from puberty onwards that ejaculation and orgasm are the same. And that means you can’t have multiple orgasms immediately after each other. But… luckily that is simply not true. It just requires a bit of unlearning to figure out how to orgasm multiple times…

Most of the ancient techniques that teach men how to orgasm multiple times come from China, or more specifically from the Taoist teachings about sex. We will explore a bit more of these teachings over the next few days. Taoist views of sex are very different from the views mostly held in the “West”, which actually makes Taoist teachings about sex fairly sex-positive.

One of the key principles of Taoism is the reliance on different forms of energy. The most precious one? Jing (精), or sexual energy and essence, which is… [End of preview]

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Day 13: Wanking and Masturbation

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Today’s objective: Celebrate having sex with yourself

Wanking or masturbation is a tricky topic for many, riddled with shame and guilt. Many people grow up to associate masturbation as an inferior replacement to having sex with someone else. Or worse, that having sex with yourself is deeply connected to evil, lust and sin, and therefore a ticket to go to hell straightaway. The problem with all of this? You’re missing out on having sex with the one person who totally understands you, is always horny when you are… and knows exactly how to make you feel right. At least if… [End of preview]

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30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

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Day 10: Let’s talk about sex

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Today’s objective: Explore how to talk about sex with your partner.

Talking about sex is a difficult subject for many guys, at least when it means talking to your actual partner(s). While many guys find it relatively easy to express their wishes to strangers or on hookup apps, talking to their longer-term partner is a real sticking point; with potentially relationship damaging consequences. After researchers based in Canada had looked at different couples over nearly a thirty year period, their conclusions were daunting: even in long-term relationships, what sexual partners thought about what turned each other on, had fairly little to do with what they actually liked. Rather it was a reflection of their own sexual stereotypes.

Why do so many guys keep quiet? Shame, embarrassment, rejection, blame, confusion, jealousy … all seem to play a role when it comes to avoiding talking. The result though is that many couples avoid the talk – and either suffer, or sometimes decide to seek sex elsewhere. I have come across many similar stories like this one; for example:

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Day 9: Sexual Learning

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Today’s objective: Outline your sexual learning

As the saying goes… What’s better than learning? More learning! You have now started the first steps on the most fun and satisfying journey you can take. And, after the planning and outlining a journey destination yesterday, it is now time to find out what there is to discover. In other words, today will be all about making your personal, sexual learning plan.

Why is learning so important? For a start, even if you know everything there is to know about sex today… tomorrow you’d have something else to learn. But not just that: imagine the many aspects of sex you may have no idea about until now. It maybe that the best sex ever is just a short learning trip away. In fact,… [End of preview]

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30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

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30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!