Day 30: Review

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Today’s objective: A quick review of all the main topics – and planning ahead!

You have reached the final day of this 30 Days workshop. Well done and congratulations on completing the entire journey!

Over the last month, the workshop has introduced many small (and sometimes not so small) tricks, tools and ways to increase your self-love. While completing yesterday’s activity, hopefully, you already noticed a few positive changes to your life. Let’s quickly recap the main topic areas:

Firstly, we looked at the three concepts self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love. Remember: they are often related but very different in the way they play out. The most important one for your personal happiness and satisfaction with life: self-love. Self-love has nothing to do with narcissism (which is

 

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Day 29: Gains and Progress

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Today’s objective: Review the personal journey you have made over the course of this program.

Well done on reaching almost the end of the 30 day program! Before we review all of the key messages of the 30 days tomorrow, today is your opportunity of reviewing your immense personal journey that you have made.

The most important thing is now that you keep up the great work that you have started. Making changes is never an easy process. You were probably used to doing things and seeing yourself in the old way for a very

“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
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Day 28: Coping Statements

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Today’s objective: Identify a series of coping statements

As the final step in building ways to deal with potential setbacks or problem situations on your way to a happier and more self-loving person, today’s focus will be on developing a set of coping statements.

Coping statements are small, supportive sayings, ideas or quotes that help you through tough times. They are an example of positive self-talk, which you can recall when a situation gets challenging. There is really no

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Day 27: Strategies for dealing with problems

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Today’s objective: Identify strategies to deal with potential problem situations.

Yesterday you identified the Top 5 most impactful potential problem situations, either as single situations – or a chain of events. Today’s activity will ask you to develop a strategy to deal with these.

Now that you had some time to think about the situations, let’s think of ways to deal with them. You have probably already thought through a few potential solutions for the situations when you first wrote them down. Now it is time to commit to them, and think of

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Day 26: Identifying problem situations

 

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Today’s objective: Start to create resilience by identifying problem situations

Wow! Before you even read any further, pat yourself on the back: the 30 Day program is almost over… and we have covered an amazing amount of material. If your head is spinning a bit at this moment, don’t worry: it will take some time for all the material and changes to filter through into your daily life. You may see the first benefits already: maybe you simply stop your thoughts sometimes and remember something from here. That is real progress. If this happens to you, congratulate

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“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
building love for myself. Thank you!”

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Day 25: Challenging negative assumptions

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Today’s objective: Identify unhelpful assumptions and develop a strategy to challenge unhelpful assumptions

Yesterday’s thought diary is a very powerful tool to help you face situations where your are feeling anxious about what will happen. Challenging these situations is important as it helps to correct unrealistic predictions – especially in as far as the reactions of others are concerned.

However, reactions of others are only half the story: the other half that leads to

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building love for myself. Thank you!”

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Day 24: Thought diary

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Today’s objective: Learn to challenge unrealistic expectations using a thought diary approach

You have probably already realised how many predictions related to body image, but also other predictions for situations where you fear being judged in some form or feel ashamed, are actually not based on reality or any evidence. Rather, they are based on the fear of something happening. Today the focus is on learning a highly effective way of dealing with such situations by using a Thought Diary [PDF]

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Day 23: Body image issues’ long term consequences

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Today’s objective: Think about the long-term consequences of body image issues and how they can lead to cycle of shame and fear.

Over the last few days of the program you have already worked out a number of ways in which you are likely to respond to fearing judgement based on your appearance. You have also already

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“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
building love for myself. Thank you!”

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Day 22: Body checking and assurance-seeking

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Today’s objective: Think about body-checking and assurance seeking

Thinking (and often over-thinking) about something you are worried about is perfectly human behaviour. Just think about how often do most people wonder if they have switched off the oven or locked the door at home. In such trivial situations, reassurance from a friend or someone who was there can often resolve the situation. But often, if nobody is around to give the reassurance, people worry about the situation unduly.

A similar pattern happens to many people when

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“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
building love for myself. Thank you!”

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Day 21: Avoidance of body showing

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Today’s objective: Think about and challenge the short-term consequences of body image issues

So what happens when you are confronted with a trigger for feeling negative about your appearance? You probably have already thought about some likely reactions as part of yesterday’s activity.

For most people, the immediate reactions range from feeling bad or preoccupied with their appearance to avoiding showing their body altogether. In other words, they focus particularly on the reason for the potentially hurtful judgement that may come their way. From an evolutionary perspective, such a behaviour makes a lot of sense: If you see something that may be hurtful or even dangerous, it is good for the mind to concentrate on the danger. For example,

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“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
building love for myself. Thank you!”

The full workshop with all activities is available as a digital download directly from here


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