Day 17: Taoist Sex and the PC Muscle

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Today’s objective: Explore Taoist views and strengthen your PC muscle

The last three days we focused on ideas born within the tradition of Taoism. Today the focus is on expanding a little beyond the techniques and see how Taoism views sexuality – including gay sex.

The basic premise of all sex in Taoism is the balance of yin, the female force, and yang, the male force. Taoism believes that when two people have sex with each other, they charge each: so for two men, two yang meet each other. The result is more sexual energy. Something which makes balancing the energy with your body more important.

Another aspect of the yin and yang or balancing principle of Taoism is the assertion that whomever is top… [End of preview]

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Day 16: Emergency Stops

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Today’s objective: Learn “emergency stop” techniques to avoid ejaculation

Breathing, as practiced yesterday, is very effective to delay ejaculation to a stage where you are well into ecstasy territory and with some training it should become a natural way to have multiple orgasms for a man. However, it is possible that occasionally you need to apply an emergency stop, quite literally. The problem with this is that an emergency stop is quite abrupt, so it really ends the sex you are having for a bit. For some guys this is a problem as some loose their erection over this. Therefore, breathing and the microcosmic orbit are preferable as they are continuous and doesn’t stop the flow. However, if you plan to continue, it is better to stop rather than ejaculate and end the sex.

There are two fairly easy to learn techniques for an emergency stop. I’d suggest that you try both them out as part of today’s activity on your own first. Like that you know how it feels.

The first one is… [End of preview]

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Day 15: Taoist Breathing, the Microcosmic Orbit

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Today’s objective: Learn to breathe to prolong sex without ejaculation

While you were performing yesterday’s activity, you might have noticed the crucial role that breathing has when you are close to cuming. Many guys speed up their breath when they are approaching orgasm, some hold their breath immediately before. As during Taoist sex you try to avoid ejaculation (but not orgasm) you can use breath as a way to control you. The most basic way is to intentionally breathe slowly and regularly. For some guys slowing down the breathing is enough to bump you over the line between orgasm and ejaculation, meaning that you are entering into a state of ecstasy without ejaculating. As a participant describes this stage: “It all seems quite the usual stuff until I get to this point where I get really close. After breathing, the feeling totally changes. It then feels as if I’m in trance or a different state and I can go on and on for a while before I have to stop and calm down for a while”.

While you can simply breathe deeply and slowly as a way to delay ejaculation, a different way is what Taoists call using the “Microcosmic Orbit”:… [End of preview]

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Day 14: Edge yourself

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Today’s objective: Understand the logic of “non-ejaculation”

If cuming, as a way of saying ejaculation, sounds like the best thing in sex to you… you are not alone: I reckon 99% of males think exactly that. The problem? Most men learn from puberty onwards that ejaculation and orgasm are the same. And that means you can’t have multiple orgasms immediately after each other. But… luckily that is simply not true. It just requires a bit of unlearning to figure out how to orgasm multiple times…

Most of the ancient techniques that teach men how to orgasm multiple times come from China, or more specifically from the Taoist teachings about sex. We will explore a bit more of these teachings over the next few days. Taoist views of sex are very different from the views mostly held in the “West”, which actually makes Taoist teachings about sex fairly sex-positive.

One of the key principles of Taoism is the reliance on different forms of energy. The most precious one? Jing (精), or sexual energy and essence, which is… [End of preview]

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