Day 25: Playing BDSM

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Today’s objective: Talking about scenes and creating consent

Yesterday you created three different scene outlines for BDSM scenes, one focusing mostly on sensation, one on power and a third one according to what you like. The focus today will be to focus more on one of the scenes and create the appropriate consent and negotiate the scene. Particularly with BDSM, but also with other sex play, negotiating, imagining and designing the scene can be a major turn on for the people involved. Hence, don’t underestimate the power of scene planning!

If you are doing this workshop with a regular partner, then you should involve him at this stage. As a first step, share the scenes you both created and select one of the six to work on. If you are doing this workshop alone,… [End of preview]

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Day 24: Exploring BDSM

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Today’s objective: Find out more about how BDSM can become part of your sex life.

BDSM, Bondage, Domination, Submission/Sadism and Masochism, can at first seem scary to some people, mostly because it is largely misunderstood and misrepresented. Often it is portrayed as extreme forms of dominance and submission, though in reality, it often is much tamer and consensual than it appears at first. So, cast your preconceptions aside, and think of it as a way of fulfilling all sorts of fantasies, including some you would probably not have thought of as being BDSM… [End of preview]

The full Sexual Discovery for Gay Men workshop materials  are now available as a soft cover book, ebook and directly downloadable PDF!

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

Available from any good bookseller.
ISBN 978-1973779131 (soft cover)   978-1370218707 (eBook)
To order online see bookfinder  or Amazon:   US – UK – CADE – FRIT – IN – JP – BR

Or as a digital PDF download here:

30 Days of Sexual Discovery… Day by Day

Your hottest summer yet:
30 days of sex positive,
playful learning – are you ready?

Just a few more days before the online version of the Sexual Discovery workshop will start! Here is a sneak peak at all the topics for each day… so make sure you check back on the 1. July to start your personal journey of sexual discovery!

  1. Overview and Aims
  2. Sex Negativity
  3. Shame
  4. Fear
  5. Sex Positivity
  6. Your sexual routines
  7. Your fantasy scripts
  8. Owning your sex
  9. Learning about sex
  10. Talking about desires
  11. Consent seeking
  12. Talking consent
  13. Exploring masturbation
  14. Non-ejaculatory masturbation
  15. Taoist breathing techniques
  16. Taoist stop techniques
  17. Taoist sex and the PC muscle
  18. Tantra breathing and connecting
  19. Tantra massage
  20. Tantra prostate massage
  21. Tantra sexuality
  22. Toys and accessories
  23. Toy Play
  24. Exploring BDSM
  25. BDSM play
  26. Public play
  27. Jealousy
  28. Playing with others
  29. Personal review
  30. The journey ahead

The welcome guide will be posted Wednesday next week… Please remember: the workshop will be available free of charge to members, and you’ll need a free membership account to access the workshop each day! If you are not already a member, then you can register here.

Coming 1 July: 30 Days Sexual Discovery

30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery
and hot, playful learning!

The free, 30 day of workshop will start 1 July, exclusively for urbangay members. Broaden your sexual horizon: experiment with new ways to play, discover ancient sex secrets and write your very own sexual manifesto!

From multiorgasmic play to kink –
it’s a journey like no other.

Topics covered in the workshop:

  • Develop a sex positive attitude
  • Dealing with fear, shame and guilt
  • How to “own” your sex
  • Making consent sexy
  • Taoist multiorgasm techniques
  • Tantra intimacy rituals
  • Toys, BDSM and public play
  • Jealousy and relationships.

I never really thought about what I wanted
so I never imagined the possibilities.

The workshop totally changed me.

The workshop will be available completely free , exclusive to members of urbangay.org online during July. If you are not a member yet, you can join here. It is free. And I promise you, I won’t ever sell your details.

See you 1 July!