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Sexual Discovery – now available as a book

Posted on 31/07/2017

Enjoyed the workshop? Want to revisit some of the activities of Sexual Discovery? The complete 30 Days workshop materials are now available as a soft cover book and ebook! 30 days of sex positive activities, self discovery and hot, playful learning! Available now from any good bookseller. ISBN 978-1973779131 (soft cover) 978-1370218707 (eBook) To order online see bookfinder or Amazon: US – UK – CA – DE – FR – IT – IN – JP – BR Or as a digital PDF download here: From multiorgasmic play to kink – it’s a journey like no other. Contents: Welcome! Day 1 Overview and Expectations Day 2 […]

Day 30: The Journey Ahead

Posted on 30/07/2017

Today’s objective: Plan your sexual discovery ahead. Yesterday you picked your own highlights from the last 30 days. Maybe they included specific techniques or they were more general things that you learned about yourself and the way you want to live your sex life. When speaking to guys who completed this workshop, everyone has a different highlight or take home message: Here are a couple of quotes from guys who worked through the workshop: “I really took home the idea about communicating. It wasn’t something I used to do before. I just thought sex should happen.” “I got into all […]

Day 29: Your Personal Review

Posted on 29/07/2017

Today’s objective: Check in on your personal journey and sexual discovery Well done on making this journey and engaging with, imagining and experiencing so many different aspects of sex over the last month. As with all good journeys, this journey and all the discoveries along the way are just the beginning: there is so much more to discover, so much more to experience and so much more to enjoy, play and have fun with: alone, with one or more regular partners, with strangers … the choice is yours. … [End of preview] The full Sexual Discovery for Gay Men workshop […]

Day 28: Playing with others

Posted on 28/07/2017

Today’s objective: Thinking about adding others into your play Opening up can be a tricky subject for some people, while others see it as a natural part of gay sex. Some couples avoid it all together, others have elaborate rules on where, when and how – while other couples, or indeed people living in polyamorous relationships, embrace it wholeheartedly. The variety of constellations around playing with more than “the one” are truly fascinating. The fact to remember that sex and love are linked, but not the same is essential in this respect. I have come across many people who would […]

Day 27: Jealousy

Posted on 27/07/2017

Today’s objective: Identify and talk about jealousy It is impossible to talk about sex, and adopting a sex positive attitude without also considering at least briefly jealousy. Of course, some people are more jealous than others, and some people even assume that jealousy is a sign of love. Some psychologists have identified jealousy to plague around a third of partnerships, often with disastrous results for the relationship. Most people feel jealous once in a while – or they think they will be jealous. A little observation: many people who go as a couple to a sex workshop assume that they […]

Day 26: Playing in public or outside

Posted on 26/07/2017

Today’s objective: Think about playing… in public or outside So far this workshop has focused mostly on the “technical” aspects of sex: that is to say one thing that the workshop hasn’t focused on, is where to play… However, exploring different options can create lots of excitement and add a lot of spice to your sex life. Gay culture is, of course, full of public places where sex between men happens: parks, toilets and beaches for example. Sex bars, clubs, darkrooms and saunas also have a lot of public play spaces. Yet, it is an interesting observation, that many guys […]

Day 25: Playing BDSM

Posted on 25/07/2017

Today’s objective: Talking about scenes and creating consent Yesterday you created three different scene outlines for BDSM scenes, one focusing mostly on sensation, one on power and a third one according to what you like. The focus today will be to focus more on one of the scenes and create the appropriate consent and negotiate the scene. Particularly with BDSM, but also with other sex play, negotiating, imagining and designing the scene can be a major turn on for the people involved. Hence, don’t underestimate the power of scene planning! If you are doing this workshop with a regular partner, […]

Day 24: Exploring BDSM

Posted on 24/07/2017

Today’s objective: Find out more about how BDSM can become part of your sex life. BDSM, Bondage, Domination, Submission/Sadism and Masochism, can at first seem scary to some people, mostly because it is largely misunderstood and misrepresented. Often it is portrayed as extreme forms of dominance and submission, though in reality, it often is much tamer and consensual than it appears at first. So, cast your preconceptions aside, and think of it as a way of fulfilling all sorts of fantasies, including some you would probably not have thought of as being BDSM… [End of preview] The full Sexual Discovery […]

Day 23: Playing with Toys

Posted on 23/07/2017

Today’s objective: Create a toy play scene Yesterday you should have created a wish-list of three toys or accessories by visiting a sex shop. Probably, you have already imagined how you could use these: either alone or maybe with someone else. Today is the day to bring using one of them to live… The objective today is to create a scene where you use one of the three toys from your wish-list – but involving another person. If you are doing this workshop alone, then think about the scene and how you’d use the toy on someone else – or […]

Day 22: Toys and Accessories

Posted on 22/07/2017

Today’s objective: Think about how toys and accessories can spice up your sex life. Toys and accessories can bring completely new experiences to whatever sex life you choose to have. And the number of different gadgets, gizmos and gimmicks available are pretty infinite. Yet, with all that variety, many toys get banned into the uncomfortable position of replacements for the real thing, a bit like masturbation. Which is a real shame, as they can enhance any play: alone, as a couple or a group. So, maybe it is time to liberate those devices and brig them centre stage. You probably […]

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