Day 6: Generosity

Your greatness is not what you have. It is what you give. (Anonymous) Click To Tweet

Today’s objective: Understanding generosity and why non-material generosity is so important.

The word generosity normally evokes feelings of giving to others liberally: expensive presents, generous meals and … you name it. Many acts of generosity appear to entail selfless acts of giving away, to loved ones, or to charity, to a person in need… However, many psychological studies actually have shown that generosity is anything but selfless. In fact, one study even linked the right kind of generosity with longevity. So, right up there with gratitude, generosity seems to influence a person’s self-esteem in almost unlimited positive ways, being a true self-love corner stone (and also a pretty good promoter of health and happiness).

So what makes “good” generosity? Firstly it is important to stress that “good” generosity isn’t about buying a bigger gift. In fact, money and generosity are not necessarily linked at all. The key to good generosity is

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Day 5: Forgiving

Forgiveness does not change the past. But it clears the way to a better future! Click To Tweet

Today’s objective: Reflect upon the key role forgiveness plays when adopting a learning mindset.

Things don’t always go to plan. We make mistakes, everyone makes mistakes. It is simply a fact of life. We can’t change that mistakes, no matter how great or small, happen, but what we can do is change how we react afterward – and react in a way that is promoting healthy, caring self-love.

Many people react with blame: they blame either themselves for something that happened – or they blame someone or something else. The problem with this is that it neither solves the mistake nor does it provide a way of making things better in future (or living positively with the consequences). All it encourages is revisiting something that can’t be changed and reminiscing about the causes.

The key to successfully respond to mistakes is

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“I went from questioning myself and self doubting to
building love for myself. Thank you!”

The full workshop with all activities is available as a digital download directly from here


30 Days of self-loveor buy the book now from any good bookseller.
ISBN 978-1546592815 (soft cover)   978-1370141586 (eBook)
To order online – via bookfinder
Amazon:   US – UK – CADE – FRIT – IN – JP – BR
Amazon Kindle: USUKCADEFRITNLINJPBRAU

Coming soon on urbangay

Ready for more? Great! Because there is some great new and free stuff coming up on urbangay! All you need to do… is be there! If you haven’t looked at the upcoming “30 day” series coming up, have a look here. And the first one will start next Monday – so here is a sneak preview of what you can expect from Self love: body, mind, soul !

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The gay scene and modern gay life can be a hard place to love yourself. Much is about competition, being better and sadly, little is about recognising just how amazing you as an individual are. But there are a few simple tricks to remind you to love yourself more, get more confidence and develop as a happier you. And the 30 day program starting on Monday, 1 May is all about that.

The program is a 30 day, daily activity program to dramatically boost your confidence, self-love and self-image. No matter how you feel about yourself at this moment, it will help to boost how you really and authentically feel about yourself.

The program has three parts, particularly useful for gay men.

1) First, the program introduces basic principles of feeling happy with yourself. With daily reflections and activities, when you follow the 30 day program, you will learn a set of tools that can dramatically help to boost your confidence and happiness.

2) Secondly, the program applies the basic principles to yourself. You’ll learn how to appreciate yourself more, display your new confidence and become someone that can inspire others from a foundation of solid self-love.

3) In the third part we look specifically at body image, because relating positively to you and your body is an important basis for a happy life and sexual expression. In this part we will develop more confidence in showing your body and the ability to give and receive intimacy and reduce shame and doubt.

To join the program? It’s super easy! Simply come back to urbangay.org daily for the daily activity. During May, it will be completely free and available for you to take part, share and save as you wish. If you are already subscribing to the newsletter, you will get the weekly digest. After the program is complete, it will be available to download.

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